Yesterday, a couple of my old students visited me. I was
taken aback by how they turned out to look beautiful. I casually asked them how
they are managing the dating proposals online considering their active social
media presence.
Surprisingly, none of them giggled. This indicated that they
are matured. One girl’s reply told me how matured youth treated dating
proposals received. Girls don’t like to be treated as if there is a contest on
and they have to be won by rather dishonest methods. While trying to impress
girls, boys project themselves as cinema heroes which would never be true in
reality.
This is what I have gathered from their views and ideas
about online dating:
Online dating is not a competition between competing males
for the attention of a female. Grow
up. Change your mind set from “winning”
to “searching”. This isn’t high
school. You are all grown up and have
been for quite some time, now. Your
attitude is the most important asset you have.
You should like yourself and not concentrate of all of the things that
aren’t YOUR idea of the perfect guy…the one the all women want.
What is that women want, you ask? That’s the age old question. Being of the female persuasion myself, I can
tell you a few things women want and don’t want.
Women want a man to be confident…NOT an arrogant jerk. There’s a big difference. You need to like yourself and not be self
depreciating but you don’t need to come across like you believe that you are a
gift to them from God and have just fallen from the sky. They don’t want you to think that THEY just
fell from heaven and are some kind of perfect being, either. They can’t live up to that expectation.
Women want a communicator. The “strong silent type” really
isn’t appealing at all. They think you
probably don’t have an original thought in your head and you probably haven’t
heard a word they said, either or that you just don’t care what they said or
didn’t even hear what they said. They
want you to be interesting enough to want to know more about you and they want
you to think that they are interesting enough to ask intelligent questions
about what is important to them, too.
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